To forgive, you have to put yourself in their shoes. When you do this, you realise what Eckhart Tolle said. If their past was your past, if their pain was your pain, if their level of consciousness was your level of consciousness, than you would think and act exactly as they do.
There’s only one earth but there are billions of worlds on this planet and every person is living in their own world. Believing their own thoughts about the world which were born out of their own upbringing and experiences. We suffer when we project our own expectations and world views on to people living in totally different worlds from us. As if we knew or could ever know the depth, the motives that took place in that world that caused that person to act in the way that they did. We don’t need to know, just know that hurt people, hurt people. Everyone is doing the best they can with what they’ve been given.
When we look deeper, we see that all people have one thing in common. We all want to be happy. For some, it has been their thoughts about getting to that happiness that have been severely deluded through their journey of life that now, they create more suffering in the world than actual happiness.
This does not mean we condone the actions of wrong doers or continue to have relationships with them. Forgiveness can result in you having nothing to do with them again. This strategy is for your mental peace. Clearing your heart, getting yourself out of that negative world. Because forgiveness is about YOU, not them.
Last year someone behaved appallingly towards me. I was so confused because all I did was shower them with love, time and my money! But soon I saw that we were not living in the same world. My path was meant to go somewhere else. I turned my life around and now I have a hundred times more happiness, joy, love, passion and excitement in my life and I am so grateful every day for it.
If you are reading this and have lost hope that you can turn your life around because of the pain someone else has caused you, I’m here to tell you that you can.
Forgive, let go, work on loving yourself and you will soon see that something so much better is waiting for you just around the corner.